The Mainstream Lie About Boundaries: The Truth Will Shock You

Rodolfo De Angeli
3 min readJun 20


• Are you tired of feeling lost and directionless but also afraid of being hurt?

• Discover why the belief in setting boundaries is actually a fallacy that limits our lives and hinders our ability to connect with others.

Instead of hiding behind walls, be brave enough to stay open and vulnerable. Find out how this can lead to true authenticity and happiness in your life by reading the whole story.

You’ve probably heard it a hundred times before if you want to be happy, you need to set up boundaries in your life. But have you ever stopped to ask yourself whether this is really true?

The truth is, setting boundaries is a mainstream lie that will do more harm than good in the long run.

Let’s start by looking at why people believe in the importance of setting up boundaries.

Generally, it’s because they’re afraid of being hurt.

We all have been hurt before, and it’s natural to want to protect ourselves from future pain. But the belief that setting boundaries will keep us safe is a fallacy.

In fact, it’s the fear of being hurt that creates the need for boundaries in the first place.

The problem with boundaries is that they limit our lives.

By erecting an invisible wall around ourselves, we cut ourselves off from the world and from the experiences that make life worth living.

You might think that you’re protecting yourself from pain by keeping others at arm’s length, but what you’re really doing is creating a self-imposed prison that will keep you feeling lost and directionless.

Instead of setting boundaries, the key to living a happy life is to stay open.

True courage comes from putting yourself out there, even when you know you might get hurt. It’s only by taking risks and being vulnerable that we can truly connect with others and experience the richness of life.

Being authentic is about being true to yourself, and that means opening yourself up to the world. When you hide behind your boundaries, you’re not being authentic — you’re hiding your true self from the world.

Instead of putting up walls, be brave enough to let people in, and you might be surprised by how much you gain.

Now, you might be thinking: if I don’t set boundaries, won’t people take advantage of me?

The truth is, the fear of being taken advantage of is just another fear that drives us to set up boundaries. But the reality is that most people are good, and they won’t take advantage of you unless you give them a reason to.

Of course, there are times when it’s necessary to set limits in our lives. For example, if someone is treating you badly or being abusive, it’s important to set a boundary and protect yourself. But these situations are the exception, not the rule — in most cases, we set up boundaries because we’re afraid of being hurt, not because we’re in danger.

So, the next time you’re tempted to set up a boundary, ask yourself: am I doing this out of fear, or am I doing it because it’s truly necessary? You might be surprised at how often the answer is fear.

In conclusion

Setting up boundaries in your life is a mainstream lie that will only limit your experiences and keep you feeling lost and directionless.

Instead of hiding behind walls, be brave enough to stay open and vulnerable, and you’ll find that true happiness and authenticity lie on the other side of fear.

What’s Next From Here?

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Our Gratitude Journey is designed to help you grow a positive mindset and focus on the good things in your life. By practicing gratitude, you can reduce anxiety and stress, improve your sleep, boost your self-esteem, and enhance your overall well-being.

So if you’re ready to start living your life fully and without the need for restrictive boundaries, join the 7-Day Gratitude Journey now!

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Rodolfo De Angeli

Mentor, Shaman, Speaker - Aligning individuals to their purpose through holistic and transformative practices =>